Wednesday, August 20, 2008

A Silent Killer

Update: 1. Check out this resource by Mark Driscoll. Note that it was written for men, and that women are not advised to read it. 2. MP3 sermon by George Verwer: "Dealing with Lust" here.

In an unofficial survey of 200 or so young men I have met or know well, I know of only two who have not struggled with Internet pornography to some extent.

Pornography is a major problem for children as well as adults. (Parents, you should know that.) It is also on the rise among women/girls.

Statistics from SafeFamilies.org:
+ Average age of first Internet exposure to pornography: 11 years old (internet-filter-review.com)
+ Largest consumer of Internet pornography: 12-17 year-old age group (various sources, as of 2007)
+ More than 70% of men from 18 to 34 visit a pornographic site in a typical month (comScore Media Metrix)
+ 28% of those admitting to sexual addiction are women (internet-filter-review.com)
+ 57% of pastors say that addiction to pornography is the most sexually damaging issue to their congregation (Christians and Sex Leadership Journal Survey, March 2005)

So, specific tips:
+ Install the free K9 filter on your computer here. It is installed on my computer, and I have installed it on the computers of about 10 others (including one middle-aged woman who had never struggled with pornography but wanted to avoid viewing it inadvertently). Sub-tips: (A) have your accountability partner set the password, (B) have the email associated with the filter be that of your accountability partner (not yours), (C) The default settings of K9 are good, except you may want to change it to not filter social-networking sites (e.g., Facebook).

+ Have an accountability partner with whom you 'walk in the light'. A skeleton in the closet will slowly destroy you.

+ Avoid having too many accountability partners.

+ Consider installing the free X3 Accountability software here. X3 regularly and automatically emails a report of questionable sites you visit to your accountability partner.

+ Avoid high-temptation circumstances/places (i.e., "Flee from sexual immorality" - I Corinthians 6:18). Note: we are to "flee" temptation and "resist" the Devil (James 4:8); we are never exhorted to resist temptation. E.g., It would not be a good idea to walk into a brothel and then pray for the ability to resist any temptation. No, "fleeing temptation" means not going anywhere near such a place. (This is Billy Graham's policy. Hence, in part, his (long) life of integrity.) Sub-suggestion: men, avoid working home alone.

+ Walk in step with the Spirit. Maintain a healthy, deeply-fulfilling lifestyle (by working hard, serving God a lot, and investing in others). Maintain healthy relationships with members of both sexes. Pray continually. Have reality and don't kid yourself. Have a daily quiet time with the Lord. Get lots of exercise. Grow in discipline. Believe that God can renew your mind (Romans 12:1-2). Attempt to be 1,000 times more effective for God than you were last year while growing in humility.

"Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful." - Colossians 4:2

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

You may like this article: http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/2008/08/22/porn-a-four-letter-word/

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